Did you know since the fall of the Berlin Wall in 1989, the number of walls and fortified borders has increased dramatically? There have been more walls built than ever before, in every continent, except Australia, to keep people out? I guess it doesn’t take a special gift to build walls at all. It is a very natural thing, and something not only governments are good at, but also we, as everyday human beings, are awesome at.
Most will never recognize what holds them back from achieving their goals and dreams. Most, if any, will never take the time to address their fateful wall-building skills. These skills are as plain as day to an outsider. However, even to the outsider, they, too, share these wall building attributes – the very attributes that will blindly stop anyone from being far better than what they are and stop them achieving everything they want to be.
If we don’t address our successful wall-building strengths we just may become forever, bitter wishful thinkers.
Complaining
One characteristic a successful wall builder must stop is complaining. Stop complaining. Stop blaming others for your situation in life. Stop blaming the umpires calls. Stop complaining about the coach. Stop complaining about anything and everything going on around you that either have a direct or non-direct affect on your life.
A successful wall builder is not fond of taking life’s knocks, seemingly unfair situations, and poor calls square on the chin. They are beautiful defenders of themselves by deflecting blame and complaining about others. We all can do it. Some of us are just more effective at it than others.
Making Excuses
Stop making excuses. When we make excuses we are giving reasons to why some incident, some event, some dilemma we are in the middle of, is not our fault. And you know what, it may not be your fault. But when we make excuses, we are literally excusing ourselves from responsibility.
The bottom line is that we don’t want to get found out. We don’t like looking weak. Who does? We don’t like failing. It’s not encouraging falling short. And we definitely don’t want to be found guilty. This is a tough truth.
Excuse making is excellent at strengthening walls. Excuses weaken our ability to run through walls. Excuses make any wall too high; it makes every wall too hard. Excuses make any dream and vision blurry.
Excuses never allow us to clearly see who we truly are; we never have a starting point to begin with to lead off in the direction we want to take.
The complex and farfetched solution to this overwhelming problem is the same as before: Break the habit.
Say things as they truly are. You’ll be vulnerable. You’ll be humble…but you’ll have the strength be able to run through that wall.
Stop Believing Negative Statements
We need to stop believing the disparaging, derogatory and undermining comments that have infiltrated our belief system all of our lives. Without being aware, these words have helped us build our walls, brick by brick, strengthening it all the time we are trying to run through it. We want to believe we can run through the wall but our strength is diminished because we falsely believe both consciously and subconsciously negative statements aimed our way.
It takes a lot of personal thought and work by ourselves to end building the wall of wrong beliefs. But we can do it. It is similar to stopping a bad habit. We don’t ever simply stop a bad habit. We replace a bad habit with a good habit and in time the good habit has superseded the bad habit. In the same way, we replace our current mindset that has been filled with discouraging and disparaging words and start replacing it with visionary and strengthening words. Sooner or later, the visionary and strengthening words take over. Your mind can renew itself. You must believe that.
Can you run through walls? Yes you can! Can you tear down the imaginative wall that you have built for yourself, the wall that hinders you from being all that you and your child can be? Yes you can! In the inspiring movie Field Of Dreams, Ray hears the voice:
‘If you build it, they will come.’ Allow the opposite to be said with yourself: ‘If you tear it, down you will become…’
Now go and run through that wall.
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